Stop and smell the roses

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  • By Col. Kenneth Lute
  • 439th Mission Support Group commander
WESTOVER AIR RESERVE BASE, Mass. --  Why does it happen all too often that it takes a tragedy or a life-changing event for us to realize what's most important? Trust me, I've been there. In the winter of 2004, I had to make the decision to take my father off life support. What carried me through was my faith in God and the support of my family.

I think we could all agree that the phrase "stop and smell the roses" means slow down and enjoy life. Take time to enjoy the people you love and care about. That might mean spending more time with your spouse, family, friends and co-workers. It might mean to enjoy your favorite activity more, which could be outdoor activities, reading a good book, taking a walk, gardening, you name it. Spending more time doing any of these things important to our well being. Personally, I enjoy taking walks with my wife. Thankfully, the weather is getting nicer.

We tend to throw the term Wingman around a lot, and we should because it works. Just this past UTA I was briefed on a Wingman situation of a friend looking out for their friend which could otherwise have turned tragic. So continue to look out for each other and make sure someone is looking out for you. It's a good feeling to know that you have a friend who will look out for you and ask the tough questions if they have too.

If life becomes so consuming with the issues you're dealing with, stop and talk to someone. It takes more strength and courage to talkto someone and you'll never regret it. Airman & Family Readiness is a great place to start. Cheryl Kirkwood and her staff are caring people willing to help. They have multiple resources such as Military One Source, Military Family Life Consultants and many others. We also have the Chaplains and their staff and even the USO is willing to help.

So I would like to ask you this question - Is life moving faster than you want it too or you just don't seem to have the time to do the things you enjoyed before? I recommend that you stop and smell the roses -- I think you'll enjoy the feeling.